Wednesday, March 23, 2011

Could you be her Family?


Guo Shao Qin.
Ah Qin, as we affectionately call her, is a young girl from an orphanage that we have been fostering now for 8 months. She was born in 2001 so is coming up 10 years of age. However, this is not her developmental age in many respects.
Her stature is that of a 5 or 6 year old at best. She is not as tall as my own 7 year old daughter. She is healthy and fit, with no known physical problems other than a condition called Brachydactyly, which is a shortening of fingers and toes. It is only a physical symptom and most people do not notice it on her, which on Ah Qin means a slightly shorter than normal finger length most prominent on her little fingers. We got her glasses not long after arriving with us. She was assessed as having both short and long sightedness and amblyopia. However, with glasses she seems to be seeing well and no longer looking sideways while reading.
Her manner is very sweet and she does not have any behavior problems. She is very compliant and obedient given the right direction. She responds well to guidance and discipline and can learn and fit into a family situation.
In saying this, she does have some undiagnosed cognitive learning issues. I have found her to be intelligent but she has difficulty with verbal communication. She is improving the longer she is with us, and her desire to learn is normal. At this stage we are not engaging her in English as we do not know her future and do not want to hinder her development for a future in China. However, she has picked up a lot of English just by listening to us, even though we talk to her in Chinese. So, her learning capacity is there, but a combination of poor early childhood education and stimulation coupled with some cognitive issues does provide her with a learning barrier.
We have employed a tutor to work with her and she is showing signs of learning albeit painfully slow at times. But she is learning.
She actually shows good understanding of processes and systems and will learn very well by observing. She will watch me doing cleaning in the home and she will have already figured out that I need the broom or a rubbish bag or a cloth, without me asking. So, her interpretive and sequential ability is quite intact (on the whole).
She is a very sweet young girl who shows and needs a lot of affection and love. She is very easy to care for fits well into a family situation. She longs for a family, and to be loved and cared for. She so desperately wants to call us mum and dad, but we have not allowed this as I will not be her long term parents. We have not given her an English name, preferring to leave this to an adoptive family to do.
She would benefit greatly by the right schooling and assessments and I believe (and I am not an expert) she could learn to live an independent life given the right support and guidance. She could easily fit into a class with 5 year olds and start right from the beginning because of her physical stature. There is no need to look on her as a 10 year old, as even emotionally she is not at this age.

Here foster mother wrote this about her. What a blessing she will be. How amazing does this sweet girl sound?! She would be a perfect little Princess to add to your family.
Is God calling YOU?

Friday, March 18, 2011

Are you my Momma!!

Gracie is a very special little girl who has touched my heart without me ever meeting her. Her two hands and forearms are under-developed. Her elbow joints can move freely. Sometimes, just after she has fallen asleep, she will use the ends of her arms to rub her nose. When sitting on her own, she will extend her two arms to find her center of gravity to balance. Her personality is cheerful. She rarely cries and fusses. She likes for people to talk to her. When speaking to her, her eyes will keep staring at you and she will smile at you. She likes for people to hold her. When the nannies hold her, she is very excited. Her eyes look around in all directions, watching people go this way and that. Sometimes she will lay by herself on the rocking chair and listen to music; her two legs kicking this way and that – her body makes the chair rock. Her reactions are very quick. As soon as there is sound or movement, she will turn her face to look; when you open the door, she will hear the sound of the door and immediately look to doorway to see who is who's coming. She is special focus and waiting on an agecy specific list for her momma please email me if you would like to know more on Gracie!! GRACIE IS MATCHED WITH HER FOREVER FAMILY!!! CONGRATS TO THEM AND HER!!!

Sunday, March 13, 2011

Waiting Kids Dissolutions

Todays kids are waiting here in the States for families both of these little ones adoptions are dissolving and there families are hoping to place them into a loving environment that is better equipped to handle their needs. They were both adopted from Ukraine.

Next is Nadia, a very intelligent, healthy, energetic 11 year old girl who was adopted from Ukraine in June 2010.She is a hard worker &enjoys helping. She is very outgoing &will take on any task. She is happy when she is doing something or has someones undivided attention. She enjoys outdoor activities swimming, riding bicycles, soccer, as well as arts& crafts.She can be very sweet & generous. She has few friends as she tends to smother other children with too many words and too much energy. She is very motherly to younger children often picking them up. She is kind to animals. She very much enjoys learning & is happy to do her homework as well as memorize Bible verses for her church group. She is currently in 4th grade at a public school. She likes going to school and church, but occasionally struggles with respect of adults. She was raised from birth in an orphanage with little supervision & will tell you to your face that she can behave when she wants to.

If you would like to know who to contact for more info on these little ones please email me

Tuesday, March 1, 2011

Starfish Boy

I have advocated for this little guy for a while and he is still waiting and I know it is because he has a heart defect on the more serious end (TOF) and an exposed bladder but he is beyond sweet and after his heart and bladder are fixed he will be a normal litte boy basically. He was born July 2008 and Thomas is his American name he is agency specific and I know nothing about the agency he is listed with. Please if you think you could be his family email me I will conclude with his sweet picture!! That face is just begging for a family to love him!! UPDATE: As many already know Thomas has recently passed away for reasons I do not know I will have a memorial post about him soon when the wounds have a little time to heal for all.